Couples
Couples Therapy
Relationships can be among the most meaningful parts of our lives, and also where we feel our deepest frustrations and hurts. Many couples find themselves having the same argument again and again, feeling misunderstood, unappreciated, or increasingly distant. Sometimes the conflict is loud. Sometimes the relationship has simply gone quiet, with less affection, intimacy, or connection.
How I work
My approach is relational and depth-oriented. I’m interested in more than the argument you keep having. I want to understand what’s happening between you: the ways you each learned to protect yourselves, how the families and relationships that shaped you show up in your partnership, and how those patterns play out in the therapy room.
Often, the ways we respond to each other are attempts to avoid feeling hurt, rejected, or alone, and those same responses can create more distance. My work draws on Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman Method interventions (I’m Level 3 trained), attachment theory, and Bowen family systems theory.
This work isn’t about deciding who is right or who is to blame. It’s about helping each of you understand yourself and your partner, interrupt the patterns that leave you stuck, and build more connection, trust, and intimacy.
What couples often bring
The same conflict repeating without resolution
Feeling distant, lonely, or like roommates
Less affection or intimacy than you’d like
Trust that has been shaken, including after a betrayal or breach
Life transitions, such as becoming parents, children leaving home, a career change, or loss
Tension with extended family or in-laws that affects the relationship
A wish to strengthen the relationship, even when things aren’t in crisis
Getting started
Finding a therapist who feels like a good fit matters, for both of you. I offer a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation so we can talk about what brings you to therapy and see whether working together feels right.